what does living authentically mean to you

”Whatever living beings there may be — feeble or strong, long, stout, or of medium size, short, small, large, those seen or those unseen, those dwelling far or near, those who are born as well as those yet to be born — may all beings have happy minds.” 

What does living authentically mean to you? I think that the common answer would be honestly and truthfully. At least in my case. To be unfaltering in your opinions and beliefs, both private and public, and to not switch and change them to satisfy other people and their beliefs. Fuck no. Basically, individualism.

Living authentically means to not be forced to live by other people’s rules and not following their timeline in life. You live in a way that suits you and makes you genuinly happy and fulfilled. And that’s on Mary had a little lamb.

Whenever I’m asked about the choices I’ve made, when it’s obvious that they’re slightly annoyed while trying to ”understand”, I tell them that my decisions aren’t a math equation for them to try to understand and solve. Acting as if I’m living after the Pythagorean Theory or whatever the hell it’s called. What? No ma’am and I don’t care if you are a family-member or a friend. Just know that decisions were made.

I used to be that person. The people-pleaser, the ”I really want to say no but I say yes instead so I’m not disappointing people” and/or whatever plans they have.
Oh my fucking God, the guilt… THE GUILT OF SAYING NO! I wanted to be perfect towards and for other people more than to myself which didn’t really help because I was still bullied for the first 15-years of my life sooo..

What a joke. I even used to allow people to have strong opinions, influence and input over my life, mostly because I didn’t trust my capability to make my own decisions and therefore unfortunately, didn’t trust myself.

Granted, I would still do what I wanted to do with whatever I decided to do in certain scenarios but there would still be this huge cloud of self-doubt lingering over my head. What if they’re right? No bitch, what if you’re right and it turns out exactly how you wanted and wished for? Oh my, the unnecessary stress. But that was years ago, try me today I say.

Freedom and happiness for you. Whatever floats your boat. My personal demand is that you’re not hurting anyone, humans AND animals. Follow your passions in life whatever they may be. You could be the CEO of a bank and one day decide that you would be happier giving backrubs to stressed out cows. If that means that you’ll wake up everyday and be your happiest self, go for it. Doing what you love and makes you happy, saying what you mean and meaning what you say. To live your life according to your own rules, wants and needs since you yourself are the only one who knows what you truly and deeply want. Not even your mama can tell you what those things are.

Truth is that, unfortunately, some people will have a problem with you being yourself and living for yourself. Especially those who are used to you being a push-over. That’s just how it is.

Some people in this world need an underdog to make themselves feel better and they will do whatever they can to drag you down to their miserable level.
But let’s not forget that for someone to try and drag someone down, they have to already be below said person who’s already above them. Where they accurately belong.

What’s that saying again? Oh yes, misery loves company.
In my life I’ve noticed that these people are mostly those who you grew up with and that’s so sad. I guess that they can’t stand the fact that you all started out at level 1 and you’re now at level 5 while they’re still stuck at the same level.
Is it jealousy? Maybe. Is that your problem? No. If they don’t care then why should you? That’s my opinion anyway.

Remove yourself from them and the negativity. Move on and continue to be your fabolous, positive and happy self because truth is that it’s not about you. They’re just mad and projecting, which is fine. They’re also human and entitled to feel whatever they feel. But that’s not your problem. Personally, whenever I come across people like this, I tell them that there’s therapy and therapists to deal with issues like this and suggest them to take that help because I sincerely do not care. Disrespectfully.

Never forget this question and ask yourself, what does living authentically mean to you? And what does it actually mean to live in such way?

Please do not be afraid to be unapologetically you. The right people will come along, the people that deserves to be a part of your life and who loves you for who you truly are. Put your crown back on your head. Know, love and choose yourself. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Fill your life with excitement, opportunities, adventure and passion. Surround yourself with people who sincerely want to celebrate you and cheer you on as much as you want to do the same for them because honey you deserve it.
We all do 🖤